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Post by July on Jan 26, 2011 19:27:17 GMT -5
Is it strange of me that I cannot STAND people touching me? Anyone other than my boyfriend, that is.
I'm very affectionate with him, but when other people, even good friends or family even hug me, or touch my shoulder I feel horribly uncomfortable for no forseeable reason.
Are you like this? Or is it just me?
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Rathborne
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Post by Rathborne on Jan 26, 2011 19:43:43 GMT -5
I'm sure your not the only person who feels like this, but everyone has their own little peeves, so It's nothing you should worry about.
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Post by July on Jan 26, 2011 19:45:27 GMT -5
I feel slightly bad because my family is so affectionate, and I used to be. So they tend to expect lots of hugs.
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Post by Rathborne on Jan 26, 2011 19:46:11 GMT -5
If you used to be affectionate maybe It's just a phase?
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Post by July on Jan 26, 2011 19:47:45 GMT -5
Maybe so. I've gotten more like than ever that in the last few weeks.
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Post by wrestling on Feb 4, 2011 13:53:20 GMT -5
No not really. People want personal space. I understand. But at least give a hug once in a while or they will think you don't care.
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Post by July on Feb 4, 2011 16:56:16 GMT -5
I do hug my friends even though it makes me uncomfortable... Well, really not just friends, family too. The only person I enjoy getting affection from is my boyfriend.
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Post by JD Storm on Feb 10, 2011 23:02:01 GMT -5
the only one in my family that's affectionate is my mom. the rest of us are about as dysfunctional as you can get.
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Post by July on Feb 11, 2011 21:48:59 GMT -5
Personally, I wouldn't equate lack of affection for dysfunction.
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Post by JD Storm on Feb 11, 2011 23:22:06 GMT -5
my family really is dysfunctional, though. for some odd reason, it seems like we're happy talking s**t to each other. not unusual to hear someone get cursed out of the clear blue. if we're not flipping each other off, people think something's wrong.
granted, it's not a daily basis to see this sort of behavior. it just kinda comes across as "normal" for us.
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Post by July on Feb 12, 2011 14:11:01 GMT -5
Seems a little odd.
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Post by JD Storm on Feb 12, 2011 21:20:36 GMT -5
we've always been a bit odd. i know we typically feel more comfortable saying what's on our mind. if someone irritates us, makes us smile or gets any kind of emotional response, we quick to show the emotional response. i think to a certain degree, we have a warped way of looking at the world. being affectionate makes us generally uncomfortable.
while we dont always show love for each other, each member of my family just knows that they can count on everyone else if something bad happened. if someone decides to make my mom miserable, for example, the rest of us would go through hell & back to protect her. if it were my dad having problems on something, the rest of us are quick to jump to his side to help.
can't quite explain why we do what we do. i think that's just how are family has always been. best i can think of is that it's a long standing family tradition, of sorts, to be distant. my dad's always mentioned that he was similar with his brothers & sister, as well as his parents.....never being "close" or affectionate, yet being there for each other when times got tough. my mom's parents, on the other hand, were just lousy parents.....but, that's a whole seperate issue.
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Post by July on Feb 13, 2011 19:48:33 GMT -5
Ah. I see what you mean... People in my family aren't so close. My parents would be by my side but I dont' think the siblings would.
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Post by JD Storm on Feb 13, 2011 22:06:25 GMT -5
you don't get along with them? lousy siblings?
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Post by July on Feb 14, 2011 17:14:33 GMT -5
Nah I don't have any siblings. Rather, I meant my parents' siblings.
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